I thought I would take the opportunity to share what's happened in mine and B's world over the last few weeks.
It's been hectic, exhausting and challenging.
Anyway - we decided (well me actually), that we would try and wean B off his dummy. He turned 16 months on 18th July and I thought I'd better try and see how he is without one. He has only ever had a dummy for naps/bedtime, so I wasn't sure how he would cope trying to go to sleep without one. Nursery have been wonderful in helping, they haven't had any problems getting him to nap without a dummy, so thats a result.
First night was difficult. At bedtime he was babbling for ages, not really realising it was time to be quiet and go to sleep. So I ended up rocking him to sleep - big mistake really, as after that night I ended up doing it all the time to get him to go to sleep - like having newborn B again. I didn't want to give in though. I never wanted to use a dummy in the first place, but my HV encouraged it, because during the first few days B was permanently attached to me, but not actually feeding, if that makes sense?! So 3 days old, he had a dummy, and well 16 months later he still had one, and I had decided it had to go.
So, how was I going to get him to go to sleep on his own. Well, a bit of research and we decided to go down the controlled crying/self settling method, as adopted by many, such as Super Nanny herself, Jo Frost. I knew the first few days would be hard, but I was determined, he needed to learn how to settle himself to sleep. First night was tough. I placed him in his cot, awake and he immediately started crying - ouch. I left the room for two minutes before I went back to tuck him in and say goodnight again. Then i left him 4 minutes. The crying eased off some what, but i still went back on and check on him, tucked him in and said goodnight. After that, he went to sleep. And he slept through till 6.30am.
The second night went the same way as the first, but I wasn't going to let it defeat me. By the 3 night, I was only going back into his room to tuck him in once before he fell asleep. And tonight, i am pleased to announce, 8 days in, I can put him in his cot, and leave the room without hearing a peep out of him. He settles very well now, and sleeps through. He is now teething again, which may put us back a little, but hopefully things will settle down again.
Now the next challenge is to stop him waking so early (Still waking at 5 something am, zzzzzz). Have tried most suggestions, putting his bedtime back, shortening his daytime nap, his room is completely blacked out thanks to 2 blackout blinds and a curtains and he has a good milk feed before bed. I think I am coming to the conclusion that this is one thing I cannot change and I will have to wait until he grows out of it and onto the next phase. Or put it this way, when he's a teenager and wants to stay in bed all day, I'll be getting my own back ;)
Till next time